Recently, waiting for the traffic light to turn green, the urgent thought “better hurry up!” came, with its familiar twinges of anxiety. I spontaneously took an impression of myself as I sat there, trying to hurry while sitting still: mind, convinced I should be closer to my destination than I was, and that somehow I was wrong to be where I was and not somewhere else; feelings, afraid of being late, critical of myself; and body, generally constricted, breathing shallowly, pronounced tension in belly and shoulders.
Fortunately, the Breema principle of “No Hurry/No Pause”came to mind, inspiring me to do as I do when doing Self-Breema or giving someone a Breema session—get the mind to drop its concept (“I should be elsewhere at this time”) by asking it to take on the task of registering the presence of the body. I did that, was nurtured by it, and felt grateful to be alive. Continue reading “Be Where You Are by Mary Cuneo”
The practice of Breema offers support for intentional parenting by providing practical tools for being present in everyday activities and interactions by unifying body, mind, and feelings. This article provides background and examples for how using simple principles such as No Judgment, Firmness, and Gentleness, and No Hurry/No Pause in daily life offers a means for self-care in the midst of a hectic day. This can provide an invaluable tool for modeling positive behaviors for children and offers the potential to be nourished, rather than drained, by the events of daily life. Continue reading “Breema: Parenting with the Nine Principles of Harmony by Eileen Sendrey and Alexandra Johnson”
Learning to listen to yourself is an essential tool for parenting. This dimension of self-care is not often highlighted in parenting education. Considerations often focus on attending to kids, partners, and helping everyone function as a team. To truly be able to listen to others, however, and to create a cohesive family unit, you need to know where to begin. If you have the ability to start with yourself, then everything else has the potential to naturally fall into place.
As a parent, I see that if I am scattered and tense, odds are the rest of my household is also. When I see my surroundings have degenerated into chaos, it is a reminder for me to look at my own state. I can take a step back and remember the Breema Principle of No Force. I consider the irony—I am moments away from shouting at my children in order to get them to stop screaming. Continue reading “Self-Care in Parenting By Alexandra Johnson”